Be selfish, without explanation. Selfish in order to take care of yourself. Because taking care of yourself can be way harder than it seems to be.
It’s so easy to live life and take on everything (cool) what comes on our path. But before you even realize you are surviving instead of living your life. Burned out of energy.
Which means that you being selfish, is not really you being selfish but doing what’s necessary.
Everything you want to do and create starts with you. It starts with who you are, including your mental and physical health. – Yes, also if it’s your mission to help others. I would even say: especially when you want to help others. –
You can’t pour from an empty cup. So, if you want to take good care of others, you need to take care of yourself first. Period.
It all starts with being aware of what you need in order to be the best version of you. It’s about putting yourself first, knowing your boundaries and guard them.
From getting enough sleep, making sure you eat well and having me-time, to investing time in self-reflection, your mental health and relationships.
Learn to listen to your body and gut feeling, it will tell you a lot of things. Take the time to really listen and feel because it’s very easy to push through when it’s actually better to take some rest. Being aware and take action on what your body tells you is key for taking good care of yourself.
Even if it feels uncomfortable, in the end you will thank yourself for it.
That may mean that you have to say ‘no’ more often. Take your time to think about proposals or scheduling appointments. Don’t say ‘yes’ to quickly, check-in with yourself first. Also when it feels urgent or if someone tries to put pressure on you!
Create enough space for yourself to make sure you do the things that serve you and which give you the energy you need. Define it!
I’ll give you an example of something that works for me. In order to feel good, clear my head, becoming stronger and feeling energized, I lift weights five days a week. It’s a big priority for me. My training (and some other priorities) is scheduled in my agenda on a set time in the morning after I bring the kids to school. No matter what else I need to do or which appointments I make, my training goes first.
Which means that I only schedule meetings and other things on my to-do list after my training. I trained myself to do these things and define my priorities, because it’s easy to let something else in between. Guard your boundaries and priorities! It’s very important.
I’m pretty ‘selfish’ in these kind of things, but I know why and that’s the most important. When I guard my boundaries and know my priorities, I can be the best version of myself. For myself and for others.
By taking good care of myself I am a better wife, a better mother, a better entrepreneur, a better listener and a better coach for my clients.
But you know what… From time to time I catch myself and realize that I took too much on my plate and too little rest. But then again, I notice it and then do something about it.
I hear the voice in my head screaming: ‘Sanne, really?!? Are you doing this again?!?’, haha. 😉
I’m human. It’s okay.
Refill your cup on time, to make sure it’s never empty.
How about you? Do you take enough care of yourself?
And what is your biggest struggle around this?